“That’s Just My Life”

Time for a brief life update. As I’ve mentioned previously, the second half of this year my subthreshold PTSD hasn’t been giving me a hard time. In addition, the “Me too” movement doesn’t seem to be negatively affecting my mental health much and nothing has really changed since I “came out” as a survivor on Facebook — which is a good thing. I wanted to just acknowledge it and move on. Continue reading “That’s Just My Life”

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I Finally “Came Out” as a Sexual Assault Survivor!

As you probably know, someone started a trend where people post “Me too” if they’ve experienced sexual harassment or assault. It’s not a perfect campaign, but I’m glad it happened anyway.

Why? Because it finally gave me an easy way to out myself as a survivor! Continue reading I Finally “Came Out” as a Sexual Assault Survivor!

My Five Most Helpful Strategies for Healing from Sexual Assault

I’ve made large strides in my healing process since it started around five years ago. It’s been full of ups and downs, but five main things have helped me to get where I am today — a place that I’m pretty content with. I hope these strategies might help you too, if you’re a fellow survivor. Continue reading My Five Most Helpful Strategies for Healing from Sexual Assault

A Second Draft of What I’d Say if I Go Public

I’ve been considering going public for a while now. Here’s what I might say if I end up going public in a Facebook post. The first draft can be found here.

“There’s a secret I’ve been keeping for a long time. I’ve kept it to myself for fear that I will become defined by what happened to me in the eyes of others. I’ve feared that people will say that it’s not a big deal. That I need to just get over it. That I’m just sharing my story for attention. Well, it is a big deal and it’s okay not to be over it. And you know what? I do want attention — not for me but for the issue at hand. I want people to stop and think about the society we live in. Because what happened to me is not acceptable. I also choose to do this because I feel it’s right to hide such a big part of myself from those I love. After all, I have nothing to be ashamed of.

You’ve heard the statistic that approximately one in four women (and one in six men) have survived sexual assault.

Well, I am the one in four. Continue reading A Second Draft of What I’d Say if I Go Public

A Draft of What I’d Say If I Go Public

I’ve been considering going public for a while now. Here’s what I might say if I end up going public in a Facebook post:

“There’s a secret I’ve been keeping for a long time. I’ve kept it to myself for fear that I will become defined by what happened to me in the eyes of others. I’ve feared that people will say that it’s not a big deal. That I need to just get over it. That I’m just sharing my story for attention. Well, it is a big deal and it’s okay not to be over it. And you know what? I do want attention. I want people to stop and think about the society we live in. Because what happened to me is not acceptable.

You’ve heard the statistic that approximately one in four women have survived sexual assault.

Well, I am the one in four. Continue reading A Draft of What I’d Say If I Go Public

Contemplating Going Public as a Sexual Assault Survivor

For years now I’ve been contemplating going public as a survivor. To me, that doesn’t necessarily mean shouting it from the rooftops, but rather making some sort of statement on Facebook. That way, I can get it over with all at once — like ripping off a band aid. I’ve even gone as far as to make a draft of what I would say in this post.

At this point, many of my friends know, but my mom is the only person in my family who knows. I was also very open at the last college I attended (which went fairly well). I want to be honest and genuine with the people around me. I feel like opening up to people would accomplish that since being a survivor is such a big part of my day to day life.

Continue reading Contemplating Going Public as a Sexual Assault Survivor

Confronting the Guy Who Sexually Assaulted Me

Hey guys. So… it’s been a while since I’ve written about myself –- partially because not much has happened in the last month and partially because I don’t know how to follow up on my last post. Let’s just get that squared away so I can move on with my life, shall we? (Not that I have many followers who are paying attention that much anyway…)

Here’s the backstory‘s TLDR version: L and I are acquaintances. We were swing dancing and he slid his hand across my chest, barely touching the bottom of my breasts, which is considered sexual assault. I said and did nothing at the time because I was so shocked.

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A few days after it happened, I woke up in the middle of the night and realized that it was sexual assault. I immediately decided to call him out on it. From the moment I decided to call him out, I was very excited. I’ve been sexually assaulted many times, and it’s always bothered me that they don’t understand the full magnitude of what they did to me. Now I had the chance, however slim, to really make a person understand that what they did was wrong and why. It was also very empowering because by doing this, I would be making him carry some of the burden. I wouldn’t let him get away with this.

I barely know him, so I didn’t care what he thinks of me. It would be sad if he refuses to accept responsibility, but I will at least be able to rest easy at night knowing that I tried to save other women from going through what I did.  Continue reading Confronting the Guy Who Sexually Assaulted Me