Consent is Like a Castle

Consent is like a castle.
In the castle, everyone is having enjoyable sexytimes.
However, the castle is surrounded by a moat.
And the moat is on fire.
The moat is embarrassment and awkwardness.
You have to cross the moat of awkwardness (by asking consent) to get into the fun castle where all the fun sexytimes are happening.
Suck it up and cross the moat.

(Adapted from Peter Strom’s metaphor for awkwardness and swing dancing)

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“Me Too” is Flawed, But I’m so Glad It’s Happening

Trigger warning: Mentions of sexual assault

Most of you probably know by now that a lot of people are reposting the following:

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On my Facebook feed, countless people have come forward for the first time. Some just keep it simple by quoting the above text, some tell their stories and some give constructive criticism about the trend.

Some people feel it isn’t enough — that it won’t change anything because people already know it’s a problem. Continue reading “Me Too” is Flawed, But I’m so Glad It’s Happening

Why is Spanking Children Still Legal?

Trigger warning: child abuse (and brief mentions of domestic abuse, elder abuse and animal abuse)

If I hit my boyfriend right now, it would be completely rational to call the police.

If I hit my grandma right now, it would be completely rational to call the police.

If I hit a dog right now, it would be completely rational to call the police.

If I had a child and spanked them, a lot of people would shrug and do nothing. Continue reading Why is Spanking Children Still Legal?

The People Who Sexually Assaulted Me Were Selfish and Didn’t Love Me

Sexual assault is selfish and if a person does it, they do not truly love and respect the person they’re with.

It’s selfish, because it’s putting one’s own “needs” above someone else’s safety and well-being. It’s selfish because the person would rather avoid a potentially awkward moment than make sure their “loved one” does not have their boundaries crossed.

Love is not selfish. Love is respectful. Love is putting someone else’s needs over one’s own. If they truly loved me, they never would’ve risked hurting me.